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Blogs > demonicsexkitten > Life, or something like it

Learning Curve  

demonicsexkitten 49F
5181 posts
2/3/2014 12:49 am

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2/4/2014 9:54 pm
Learning Curve

How long is the "learning curve" for a new lover? Learning the likes/dislikes, what is too much or too little pressure. Do you "re-train" a lover if what they like maybe just doesn't do it for you? Or works but could be done more to your liking?

My last lover I was with for roughly 8 years. We became well trained in one anothers likes/dislikes and what completely drives the other wild.

Starting over just seems... like a lot of work.

KY_nice_guy 52M  
699 posts
2/3/2014 1:59 am

 As long as your both comfortable enough to be completely open and honest with each other, I think the learning just as much fun as already knowing. You may learn some new things about yourself at the same time.


demonicsexkitten 49F
10694 posts
2/3/2014 8:28 pm

 What I hate is when I know it's not quite working... but I'm not sure how to explain how to make it "right".


rm_travelguyoh 63M
12264 posts
2/3/2014 9:13 pm

 I can relate with that
some times the things that comes from between my ears makes me pause for reflection


discreteSteve62 50M
2169 posts
2/4/2014 9:05 pm

 Sometimes people manage to stumble upon what makes their partners go wild. Sometimes they are good at things that work well for a lot of people. Sometimes it takes communication, but a couple has the good fortune of communicating well. However, sometimes couples have to work at it to get just what works for their partner.

My wife and I had the good fortune of stumbling on things that work for each other pretty quickly, and we each had some things we already knew had a pretty good chance of working well. On the other hand, neither of us is great at communicating how to make something that's mostly working work even better. Even so, we've been a couple for 3½ years, and we still discover new ways to please each other every now and then.

I think as long as two people figure out how to please their partners pretty well, it's kind of nice not to figure them out completely -- because it's nice to have the occasional surprise of discovering something new.


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