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WHAT THE FUCK...???
WHAT THE FUCK...??? Fuck!!! This is a vent, so prepare yourself for some swearing to ensue. A little background first before I get into it. I met someone new week before last. Nice, seemingly normal guy. Seemingly normal. Can you feel me rolling me eyes over here? Surely I should know by now that of course everything and everyone is never, ever just as it seems. We had emailed back and forth for a couple of weeks and then finally met for drinks to see if we clicked, which we did. We ended up talking for a couple hours at that first meet. Let's call this person G. As I like to hear it in my head..."Gee whiz, am I the most amazing doofus you've ever met or what???" G is actually a pretty interesting guy and we shared what felt like was a lot of information about one another and our situations. We also had some funny as hell conversations about people we've met on bbwnsa.com in the process and the craziness we've run into, etc. Man I could go on about bbwnsa.com emails and chats for weeks and never run out of stooopid stories to share! So anyway... we ended up back at G's place and proceeded to have a great time. Same thing the following week. Flash forward to this week and I went back to G's place again. Another great time. Okay... so what's the rant then? Where is this clearly interesting situation heading? So here it is. I had spent the night at G's the first time, and did again this week - Tuesday to be specific. Wednesday evening I was busy seeing another friend I'd met on bbwnsa.com. No big mystery here, I like to fuck and I'm here on bbwnsa.com to find people to fuck. It's pretty much all over my profile so honestly there's just no big mystery there. So late Wed I had gotten a text message from G basically saying that if I wanted to spend more than one night a week with him I was "sooo invited" to use his words exactly. When I read it I was on my way to my other friends house so didn't reply right away. I replied this morning (Thursday) instead, saying something along the lines of thanks for the extended invitation and if I don't see the other person I am seeing in the area I may take him up on that offer. I didn't think much of it at the time when I pressed send. About a half hour later I got a couple of texts back. I won't go into all the gory details but here are the highlights... “I know this is NSA...” “I guess I shouldn't feel this way” “I think I'm done” “unless you go exclusive” “I'm not judging” And in a nutshell… G didn't think I was "THAT active" Ok, so two things. One, "THAT active" I thought was funny as hell in that I honestly laughed OUT LOUD in the middle of my office when I read that sentence. I think I might have even snorted a little bit LOL!! Little did I know that having TWO whole sexual partners was "THAT active" by bbwnsa.com standards. Shit man, you have no fucking idea who I am and what makes me tick, do you? If you think having two partners is being THAT active then I got some scary fucking news for you! The only reason I don't have more is because I don't YET. Just give me time buddy, give me time… Second, "unless you go exclusive" is just ironic as hell. G knows I'm still married so am not exclusive to begin with. And I know I talked about the other person I met in the area when we first talked. Plus I've been going on about other emails that I continue to get from people in the area and which ones I am replying to or not about finding others to hook up with. Oh and lest I forget, G has also telling me about the people that he continues to email on bbwnsa.com as well trying to arrange a hookup. Long story short, exclusive is just not a word I would have ever expected to come up in any conversation with G. Did he really think he was THE ONE after 3 times together? Holy shit dude get over yourself. The sex was indeed awesome but it wasn't going to make me swear off everyone else on the face of the earth. This is why the phrases "No strings attached or desired", "I’m looking for men" (PLURAL!) and "I'm not looking for a relationship" are on my profile. I guess I also need to put "I'm THAT active" somewhere on my profile too. Apparently it’s still too subtle right now. I sent back a short reply along the lines of I hope I didn't give you the impression I was looking for something exclusive, because I am not. In any case... we are so very done. Seriously now readers, time for some feedback. If you've read this far thank you for hearing me out. Now answer me this: What the fuck?!?! How does a situation like this even happen? There is something truly weird and surreal about it all that still just makes me shake my head and laugh as I finish typing this up. Is there something about my profile that is truly misleading? Please tell me what it is so I can correct it. I don't think so but maybe I'm too close to not be able to see it. Until next time... FUCK to your heart's delight. I know I sure as hell will keep on doing just that! |
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Wow!!! You are THAT active!! LOL!! I wish I was that active! I only have one, right now. I had a man ask be to be exclusive before we even met! Men think women are the only ones that get attached. I need a really great kiss!!
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Doesn't seem misleading at all. Some people think they own you after some sex, causing some drama. As far as being "that active", wouldn't that be a good thing? LOL! Romance her heart, tease her body, enjoy the company shared in bed n out! Treasure every moment spent together, in good times n bad! Cum visit my blog, you're always welcum! submokey Become a watcher! THINK PINK!
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Well geez, I'm not sure how he came to the conclusion, with you being married and all, that you could ever be exclusive. Or as he put it "didn't know you were THAT ACTIVE" sighing and shaking my head. When do you have the conversation that someone wants to be exclusive, then that can be a difficult one to navigate. Society still thinks it's ok for a man to see more than one woman (he is virile!) and that women should only see one man at a time (serial monogamy, but still a woman is a slut if she has too many partners in one year). Let's just hope that this was the one-off for you and that the rest of the men you get together with, are on your wave length. Perhaps if you were barebacking it, he just assumed that you were only doing it with him? Whatever, Kitkat The observant make the best lovers, I may not do right, but I do write, I have bliss, joy, and happiness in my life, Kitkat Come check out my blog KItkat1415 check out this post by me Adventures In Body Grooming #39 April Topic Link: What Lies Beneath If April Showers Oh Bloody Hell What Kind Of Weather Turns Me On Bloggers Symposium 40
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1 post 5/28/2014 10:41 pm |
Damn I love you Baby!!! Keep it real and please keep "Active"!!
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But going back to the top - you say he seemed normal. What is 'normal'? A lot of us struggle against the monogamy norm. Others just accept it as the 'right' way to be. And I guess a lot of people are drifting somewhere in the middle. x My blog: Arjohn Read or seen GONE GIRL? Book Group Gone Girl Watching me Watching you ahaah... For people who like blogging banter: Bloggers United!
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When I first started having sex with my now-wife, I made some sort of comment about seeing other women. She said something along the lines of, "If you think you can see other women, we're done." I quickly agreed that being exclusive with someone as fantastic as she is was just fine. Now she teases me about the conversation once in a while.
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