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Talking to Unicorns Rule #3  

44coyote2 50M/51F
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1/5/2016 8:15 pm
Talking to Unicorns Rule #3

So now we cover rule #3, which until recently was important enough to be rule #2. This is a constantly broken rule, not just on bbwnsa.com, but daily in every home<b> around the world. </font></b>If you don't believe me, just ask any married couple. Or at least the wife.

Rule #3: Listen

Since the primary form of communication on here is written, either by reading a profile or exchanging messages; listen will also encompass reading. Because it does hold up that whether it's a profile or a message, just as some people(guys) only hear what they want to hear. A lot of people while reading, only digest what they want to be true. There are even people, to which anything you have written in a profile doesn't matter. I think they get distracted by the pictures and they think that the words on the page are just a formality, somehow they don't apply to them. We for example were very clear what it was we were looking for. Even though we explicitly said we had zero interest in single males, we were bombarded daily with messages from single males. We thought if we would be slightly off-putting, yet funny, maybe the message would get through. NOPE! The messages barely slowed. This proved to me that very few were actually reading to comprehension what we would write.

So how does this help in Talking with Unicorns? While some profiles will be very vague and brief. Read, then reread a profile before you just start clicking buttons. This after all is your first glimpse at who your potential new Unicorn friend is. Make mental notes, not just about what you read, but also what you didn't. You know what you are looking for. If you did not read it as part of the profile, and you're sure it was not there, try to get the answers you seek as part of your early communications. I recently read some great advice by a Unicorn that said to not lower your standards just to get a Unicorn. Not only do I think that is great advice, but it is something we have practiced from the start.

But back to listening. The first few messages exchanged will be crucial and the most informative. This will be the first impression the Unicorn gets of you and you of her. Because of this, I mentioned it earlier, ALWAYS have the female of the couple do all of the early communication. Guys, you can have input, but always let the women do the talking. The Unicorns always will know also. So if you think you can be inconspicuous , you're not. Men and women just say things differently. But this will be covered in another rule. The things said by the Unicorn the first day or two that you are communicating are very important. Early on it's getting to know each other mode. Pay attention to the subtle details that the Unicorn is willing to share about herself. It will payoff in later conversations if you know more about her than just her sexual stats.

The bottom line is this. This is a sex site. This is not a revelation to anyone. There are a lot of swingers on this site. Again not a revelation. But from what I've been seeing though, most swingers are just looking for sex. That's obvious and ok, if that's what you're in to. There is nothing wrong with people that are looking to unwind and have a fun time. Set yourself apart from the rest. Yes there are some Unicorns that just want to have some fun also, and want nothing more than just a fun night out and a one time thing. However, there are a lot of Unicorns that want a little more. They don't want to find a life partner necessarily, but they would like someone who will take the time to get to know who they are and enjoy their company as well as their beauty. Remember these ladies are very complex and can be quite fascinating. This is why listening is so important. Pay attention to the details she is willing to share, and use them as part of conversational recall. It will make your Unicorn smile to know you actually care about her as a person, rather than just another notch on your bedpost. And there is nothing more beautiful than the smile of a Unicorn.

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