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How A Zen Mindset Helps Give Clarity To Sex & Kink
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How A Zen Mindset Helps Give Clarity To Sex & Kink My brain is ALWAYS going. Case in point, 2 hour drive again to pick up my motorcycle and the brain is rolling hardcore. But I didnt write anything down as I had a rental pick up truck and a trailer and being unfamiliar with the vehicle, I was focused on driving not writing this piece. As it should be when behind the wheel. As I was driving, I had the thought of my profile name. Does it sound like a contradiction? Does it give the perception that I cant be or I'm not aggressive/forceful and/or dominate? Like me explain the concept behind the name and how being zen actually gives the truest form of dominance. Erotic. Arousing or satisfying sexual desire. Zen. A Mahayana movement, introduced into China in the 6th century a.d. and into Japan in the 12th century, that emphasizes enlightenment for the student by the most direct possible means, accepting formal studies and observances only when they form part of such means. Eroticism is in a way, sexual enlightenment. Something sexual that stirs you. Something that you feel. When you orgasm, that release is, in essence..bliss, nirvana, a sexual enlightenment...well for most. So there is a parallel plain that Eroticism and Zen exist on. But that's just my opinion and my take. Maybe it's scientifically proven, I have yet to spend the hours to research this. My life is too short to be THAT geeky. So with that back ground, how I can up with the title of this post... In my personal life, I am a very spiritual person. I usually keep that to myself as the subjects you need to be careful on talking about...religion and politics. If anyone wants to engage convo on either, I will gladly be responsive to. And I will refuse to continue any such convo if you cant be open minded and respectful enough to my view and beliefs without shoving yours upon me. That's the decent thing to do when having a civil conversation without jumping down one's throat for their thoughts and concept of their ideology. As I get back to my main tangent, sorry.. With that said, I meditate. I try to live a zen kind of mindset. I do this to minimize stress and negativity in my life. I try to put good energy back into the universe. I'm on a quest, a journey of enlightenment. That quest for knowledge is on many levels. It's kind of like needing to climb the mountain to get focused. Part of that is mental. Part is physical. Some spiritual. Some of it, sexual. And that's the part that has led me to here, Fet Life. The most important thing in this life is this moment. Now that THAT moment has passed, this moment is the moment is the most important. It's a simple concept. You focus on the moment you're in and block out all the clutter that life throws at you...or at least try to block out all that white noise. So WHY is this important to dominance? For starters, you're focused on the task at hand. And your focused on your partner. You're not thinking of the sub you had last week or the "chick" you fucked two hours ago. You are in the moment with the person you're involved with. Second, if you're a sub, perhaps it will help you and your mind be as centered as possible. Perhaps it will help with clearing the thoughts that could fill your head. Oh god, is this going to hurt, what's going to happen next, I hope my Dom will be pleased with my behavior and that I please him/her... Third, being in the moment and being free of mental clutter, you are giving the truest version of yourself in that moment. You're not taking the bad day you had and taking it out on your sub. You're not taking the given play time as a diversion to the the stress you're felt all day. The strike or slap is coming from your core and not because it was fabricated based on all the other "stuff" cluttering your body, soul and mind. Your anger isnt controlling your actions. If a sub, your fear isnt controlling the anxiety you feel. Now I know some will say that's just of the D/S dynamic. I say it's part of going with the ebb and flow of life and letting each moment dictate where the next moment goes. When the actions are coming from the truest version of yourself, then it leads to the truest play time and it's not contrived or forced. It comes naturally. So please dont confuse one that has a clear mind as one that cant be forceful, dominating or being able to crack the cane or your soft ass cheeks, or wrap his hands around your throat, choke you as he pounds his cock into your stretched little ass, etc. It just might be the purest and hottest play time you ever have... Namste, j. |
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